When you're fifteen

Truthfully, I am not in the mood to update anything yet in this lonely site. I think it's not too exaggerating if I stated here that I'm currently in studying mode now. I'm so proud of myself (?)

But. An event occurred lately that suddenly I had the urge to write & share something with you. Okay so. Have you heard of this social networking site which is getting lamer every day called Facebook? Yes, events always occur on Facebook. It's like the gossip ground everyone can reach.

So there was this girl (assuming she's fifteen by judging at her childish wall posts) who kept updating about her 3-months-boyfriend (who is also fifteen, by judging at his clean, takde jerawat face) on her wall, which eventually appeared on my news feed. Which annoys and bothers me a bit till now.

I'm not an evil person you know nak tunjuk dia punya wall post segala kat blog aku. Lagipun aku tak reti macam mana nak print screen bendanya.

But you know what I mean by "she kept updating about her boyfriend". It means, her posts sound like she can't live another day without logging in to Facebook & tag her boyfriend on every single post. (Oh not to mention her blog. God. Her life revolves only around him. Wait. Her life is her boyfriend).

The first thing that popped in my mind was 'aku macam ni ke ha dulu?'. Tapi aku lega sbb aku teringat time aku Form 3 aku belum ada Facebook. LOL. Kalau ada, I think I could be worse than her kot.

You see, girls are very ambitious when they're in relationships. You have known him for only a month, and now you're having fantasies about marrying him one day? Come on. He's still young. You might think you have found the one. But the boy - he's 15/16! What does he know about loving a coeval female? He can't even love his mother or grandmother right, and you expect him to love you forever?

Okay so who am I to talk about these lovey dovey stuff? I am not in the same league as you guys, aren't I? I don't even have a decent boyfriend! (Sedih)

But at least I have experiences. Experiences that can guide me whenever I get involved with guys. Experiences that I think I should share with you and other misguided, young girls.

Listen :

1. When you plan to marry him, you have to look at least 5 years ahead. Keep questioning yourself, will he still be here? What will become of him? Will he give his full commitment on me through out the first 5 years? Where will he end up being? If you couldn't survive these 5 years, how can you reach the marriage part then?

2. Have you ever thought how things are so random that they could happen within days? Within minutes? Within seconds? The boy might like some pretty girls he found on Facebook when you guys barely even reach your first month together. So don't put high hopes on preserving your relationship for ever.

2. People change. Feelings change. What if he changed? Don't bury yourself too deeply into his soul. One day when he leaves you, you'll find that it's really hard to pull yourself out again. Trust me.

3. Remember, you're having a relationship with a BOY. I repeat, a BOY. Who came from the race that matures slowest among mankind. In a typical boy's mind, you're just another stepping stone for him reach the truly one.

4. You're too young. You don't know completely how the world works. Not that I'm saying I'm wise enough, it's just that, aren't you supposed to worry about homework or bra sizes at this age? Call me a cave woman, but really, I don't find 'hot and cold', unstable relationships trendy and hip at all.


Well, I admit I was once like you too. Young and carefree, and never had my mind opened. Which is why I'm here to tell you that "No you ain't gonna marry the dude". Feel free to get involved in a relationship, but never have anything like "Oh he's the one" in your mind. Let's be like them too, take them as stepping stones to finally reach the one.

Don't you want to experience how it feels like to fall in love with an unknown guy planned by God?